You have the power to make it better.

I help parents translate their child’s behaviors, build healthy family relationships, and achieve lasting, meaningful connections. “Getting by” is no way to live, I want you to thrive.  

Vanessa Elias featured in the Wall Street Journal, "Quit Tracking Your Kids' Phones When They Head Off to College." To read, click here.

Vanessa Elias forms Wilton Mental Health Task Force with other residents to build awareness, bring together the resources that already exist, and collaborate to expand current services. To learn more and get involved, please visit here.

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Are you starting to be concerned about your child's behavior?
Or are you fully immersed in a challenging situation?
Maybe you're facing a crisis as you read this.
No matter where you are in your parenting journey, I have been there and I understand. I have amassed a wealth of knowledge that I want to share with you, from parenting children with behavioral and mental health challenges to selecting therapeutic programs.
The first step is opening up, then together we will find a better way forward, to improve your relationships and to change your life.
My name is Vanessa Elias and I am the founder of Thrive with a Guide, LLC. I am a certified parent coach and a mental health activist, and I serve as a lead voice in my community connecting parents to professionals, resources, and thought leaders. I specialize in considering siblings when creating a personalized plan for parents. I am also a facilitator for the National Alliance on Mental Illness Child & Adolescent Network (NAMI-CAN) and have led parent support groups since 2015.
While my focus has been local, my message has resonated deeply and garnered national attention. 
To read my full bio, please click here.

To learn more about all of Vanessa's certifications and trainings, please click here.


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What parents are saying

"When our son’s therapist recommended Vanessa, I was skeptical that she would say or do anything differently than the many therapists we had already spoken to over the past 10 plus years (in addition to the wilderness and therapeutic boarding school we tried). Boy was I wrong!  I’m so incredibly grateful that I gave Vanessa a chance to help me! She has a vast knowledge about DBT, and has given me specific advice and suggestions I had not gotten anywhere else."

What Book Discussions, PTAs, and Other Groups are Saying

"We can't thank you enough for joining us tonight. The feedback has been fantastic. Parents and caregivers definitely needed permission to take care of themselves, and it was great to have clear ideas on how they can start."


~ Warmest regards,

Annie and Lisa, PTA Presidents, Miller-Driscoll (grades PreK-2), Wilton, CT

What mental health and other professionals are saying

"Vanessa is gifted at her capacity to engage families with her compassion, warmth, and knowledge. She is extremely qualified to educate families regarding resources within the community, as well as guide them through less traditional paths to gain adequate mental health treatment. Families are often desperate, helpless, and terrified when their child is not functioning well. Vanessa’s personal and professional experience are a unique and invaluable resource to families who are navigating these uncharted territories. She has my unqualified highest recommendation!"


~ Liz Courtney-Seidler, Ph.D., Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Cognitive & Behavioral Therapies of Ridgefield, PLLC